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New Seasons, New Reasons

April 4, 2016 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 2 Comments

I think I’ve finally figured out why I’ve been uninspired to blog. 

I’ve never been short on desire, time or even post ideas. In fact, I’m the type who can just sit down, start typing, and actually come up with a decent post. Despite all this, I don’t get to write here as often or as consistently as I know I can. And then, literally moments ago, I realized that it’s because my “why” has changed.

Back story.

Three years ago, I wrote a post about why I am inspired to blog. I knew then that I wanted to share my story, whatever that may be. I wanted to be a part of this amazing online community of women who blog. I wanted to have a place where I could write for myself. Ultimately, I blogged because it made me happy.

As life has changed for me over the years, so has my “why.” Not by a lot, but enough to make me re-think things. Let me break it down for you.

In the beginning, I simply wanted to tell stories. I want to go beyond that, from simply telling stories to sharing lessons I’ve learned from them. After all, I need to process the lessons in order to grow, and it’s in sharing these lessons that I can inspire. (OMG, super light bulb moment.)

I hope to be able to impart more wisdom on motherhood and marriage, things that I am pretty sure I’ve been doing right all these years. I am also excited to write about things I’m still learning to do, like turning our house into a home, budgeting, and cleaning and organizing (yuck hahaha!)

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Our marriage is certainly not perfect, but it definitely works. Check out my seven tips for a happy married life here.

 

In the beginning, I only wanted to become a part of the blogging community. Over the years, this group has also been good to me, and I have been able to make wonderful friends. This is something I want to continue doing. More importantly, I want to be able to build actual friendships with the women I meet.

To be honest, I have learned that It isn’t easy translating online friendships to real life. If you go through my archives, you’ll notice that some of the faces you would often see in older photos are no longer present in my more recent posts. I guess that’s really just the way it is. 

I have a handful of blog friends whom I consider as real friends, and they are more than enough. I know that I am lucky to have them. And, truth be told, I’d rather have a few real friends than a lot of fake ones. 

Mothers Who Brunch
These are a few of my favorite mom bloggers (and our kids!) You can read about this super fun Mothers Who Brunch Halloween event here.

 

In the beginning, I just wanted to have a place to write. I started out as a newbie blogger the same year I decided to pursue writing as a career. Back then, all I wanted was to be able to see my name in a byline. Five years and several drafts later, I have seen my name in print, not just online but also on paper (Confession: I’d love to see more of it on paper!) 

Soon, my name will also be credited on screen. Achievement unlocked! And OMG what an achievement this is.

Having a blog has really helped push me forward as a writer, and this is something that I hope will never stop. I never thought it would make this much of a difference, but it has. Beyond having an instant portfolio that shows how I write, the actual writing practice that I get from blogging helps a lot, too. This “why” is my constant. 

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Who would have thought that my little and big ideas could actually mean something to other people? Speaking of ideas, in case you find yourself struggling to find things to write about, try doing this.

 

In the beginning, I blogged simply because it made me happy. It still does. And now, I want my blog to emulate my life’s happiness. I want to share this happiness with anyone who reads what I write. I hope to inspire my readers to live happily, too.

I see this space, after all, as my virtual time capsule of happy moments. Of course there will be bad times, and yes, I may write about them sometimes. I will make sure that, in these posts, I will also try to find (and write about) the good side of things. I know I can. I’m naturally optimistic like that. 

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This family knows how to be happy and have fun, and I love writing about these spectacular times.

 

To this list, I am adding a new “why,” and that is to live more. Without living my best life, I know that I will have nothing good to write about. In this sense, blogging can also drive me to live more, do more, feel more, and be more. I continue blog because I want to live better. Makes perfect sense.

That’s why I write. 

Now, curious question,  why do you read?  Which of my posts do you like, and what do you hope to see more of? What will keep you coming back? 

Filed Under: Everyday Life Tagged With: Blogging, blogging with purpose, writing meaningfully

Enveloped Ideas

February 15, 2016 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 18 Comments

Fact: Enveloped Ideas is a song by Filipino band, The Dawn.

It has nothing to do with this blog post.

I will be talking about ideas, though, and how I’m often at a loss for them when it’s time to start writing.

It seems like every time I’m not in front of the computer, I know exactly what I want to write and blog about. Then I sit down, and everything just disappears into a mushy pool of random thoughts. It’s my sad but true reality.

Well, recently I’ve gotten the chance to work with a (really) young director who gave me the brilliant idea of idea-banking. No, it isn’t a new concept, but there’s just something more appealing about having something enthusiastically explained to you versus reading about it online.

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Notebook, check! Pens, check! All that’s missing now are ideas.

 

At our last shoot, he showed me a small notebook that he started carrying around in his back pocket. It contains his random thoughts and ideas – anything and everything that might be interesting to write about, photograph, shoot, or think about. His goal is to write down 10 ideas a day. It’s basically bottled up brainfarts, or, enveloped ideas! Lol. I just had to…

I always have ideas bouncing around in my head, but I’ve never really thought to list them. Why not? I dunno, but now I think I should have started this a long time ago. I feel like it’s a great habit to develop, especially for someone like me who needs to have an active idea bank for work (and for the sake of this blog, too.)

I’m starting today. My colorful pens and little yellow notebook are ready. I hope my brain is ready, too. It’ll be fun creating my own writing prompts, and going over my list of random thoughts on writing days. I hope this means that more interesting and exciting blogging times are coming up, too.

Do you guys keep a list of blog topics and ideas that you want to write about or do you just wing it like I’ve always done? Do you agree that keeping a list of ideas can help us defeat the dreaded blank page?

Filed Under: Everyday Life Tagged With: Blogging, idea bank, Writing, writing prompts

Discovering Myself on Snapchat

February 13, 2016 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 27 Comments

Confession: I have recently become addicted to Snapchat. I don’t know how it happened, but it just did.

During my first few weeks of trying out the app, a million and one things would go through my head as I viewed my own snaps. Thoughts like:

Oh my gosh this is what my voice sounds like to other people?!

My intonation is all wrong! Do I really speak this way???

Should I be fixing my hair before I record a video?

Ooh, if I angle my head and the camera this way, I look thinner. Lol.

I must look silly to people who can see me doing this.

Nakakahiya ako! Ang tanda ko na, ngayon pako natuto nito!

I wonder if it matters that I don’t make an effort to look nice (as in, made up) in these videos?

I really am camera-shy.

That last thought perplexes me. I am camera-shy and I do have stage fright. It’s so bad that even when I’m asked to speak during meetings, I stumble. I get nervous whenever everyone’s attention is turned to me.

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I get SUPER nervous whenever there’s a microphone in my hand, even if all I need to do is read VO spiels from behind the tech booth.

 

BUT, during regular conversations, when attention is drawn to me naturally, I’m totally fine. It’s so weird. I don’t understand why I function this way. I’ve always known that I would do better behind the scenes than in the spotlight, though, because of this. And so behind the scenes I have stayed.

Sayang (it’s a shame,) some people say, because I do have a lot to say. Most of the time the things that come out of my mouth make sense. I guess this is why I enjoy writing and blogging so much. I get to let those thoughts and opinions out without having to open my mouth.

Sayang, some people say, because I’m quite entertaining. Well, my humor is sarcastic and self-deprecating. It isn’t for everyone. So I try to keep my audiences small. As in friends and family only. I feel, though, that as I get used to this Snapchatting thing, I’ll start to seem less uptight there. At the moment, I’m still struggling to get over the actual sound of my voice.

Sayang, some people say, because I register well on-cam even though I’m a bit on the chubby side. To this, all I can say is HAHAHAHAHA. Yep, I may be plus-sized, but that never bothered me before. I’m not the type who will shy away from a camera because of the way I look. I don’t pretend to be thin. I know my angle, and because I’m a girl I sometimes choose to use it. I do love being me, and that’s a fact.

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Even as a bride, I was awkward in front of the camera. This is why we had no prenup shoot, no on-the-day video, and only one, super-trusted photographer during our wedding.

 

It’s strange, but being on Snapchat has sort of helped me learn more about myself. I now have a better idea of how I sound to other people, and what my face looks like while I speak. I never realized that I made that many facial expressions. No wonder I’m able to piss people off so easily. Lol.

I also know that my days can be really dull. I wake up, have coffee, cook, drive. I get on the computer and write. I read a little, cook some more, then drive again. Most of my time is spent at home. When I actually go out, it’s to go grocery shopping or to the laundromat. Guys, do I need a life? Lol.

At the same time, I’m learning that I really like this life. It’s a far cry from what my days were like during my 20’s, especially when I still worked in events management. Everything was so exciting and fast-paced then. Now, things are slow, calm, and quiet. I like it, but some days it makes me feel old. And I know I’m not actually old.

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Back when I was cooler.. Lol.

 

There are days when I sit and think about how I can make my snaps look more interesting. Of course I know that the answer is to actually go out and do something. Whenever I’m out, though, I don’t open Snapchat. Why not? Because I really fell like I look silly recording myself as I speak into my (huge) phone.

At the start of 2016, a friend shared that vlogging will soon kick blogging’s butt. I take this to mean that those of us who are more comfortable at writing rather than speaking our thoughts are in trouble. I guess that Snapchat, in this case, also works for me as a sort of trial phase, should I ever transition to posting videos.

At this moment, however, I can say that I am so not ready for it. But add me on Snapchat anyway. πŸ˜€

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MrsPCuyugan on Snapchat

 

Have any of you guys shifted from blogging to vlogging or have you started to incorporate videos into your posts? How has the transition been for you? Is anyone else out there totally not camera-ready like me? 

Filed Under: Everyday Life Tagged With: Blogging, Snapchat, Vlogging

Digital Konmari

February 11, 2016 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 27 Comments

I’ve just done a drastic digital Konmari on my blog. 

I did the same with my Instagram account a few months ago, and it actually made me feel good. I deleted photos that I didn’t want on my feed anymore, including ugly ones, posters for old events, and pictures that I simply didn’t wanted to see anymore. Basically everything that didn’t spark joy.

The other day, out of nowhere, I decided to de-clutter my blog. The first ones to go were old posts promoting workshops from 2012, 2013 and 2014. I don’t think those are needed anymore. Then, I deleted old giveaway posts. I took down posts that I felt were senseless, too. 

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A couple of weeks ago, it was my phone that I was obsessed with. I deleted apps and games that I once thought I couldn’t live without, but no longer used or enjoyed.

 

A blogger friend told me before that I shouldn’t delete posts so drastically because it might affect my page rank or domain authority. Truth is, that really doesn’t matter to me. For some reason, I had this compelling need to get rid of clutter on my blog, and I went ahead and did it. It felt good.

While I was at it, I fixed up my menu bar (up there, if you wanna check it out.) There are drop-down menus now, and most of my posts have been properly segregated into adequate categories. I feel so accomplished.

All of a sudden, I have moments where I get these intense feelings of irritation over clutter. All of a sudden, I have no problem throwing things away. Well, some things at least. My yarn, notebooks and pens are all still safely hidden away. Lol.

 

Today I bought a trash bin. I shall call him Hulk. #Domestication #athomewithmrsc #lipatbahaychronicles

A photo posted by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan (@mrspcuyugan) on Jul 27, 2015 at 3:05am PDT

 

I was never the type to be bothered by clutter. MrC even said that he didn’t understand how I could sort of thrive in it. But, I dunno, something changed when we moved houses. It doesn’t happen often, but I really make the most of it when I feel that way.

Once, I ended up sweeping the entire house, upstairs and downstairs. Then there was one time where I decided to just clean the bathroom. That’s not at all normal behavior for me.

Often, my cleaning sprees involve doing large batches of laundry at a time, and throwing out random containers of old food from the fridge and freezer. Sometimes I go nuts on my email and just delete everything that’s been left unread for over 3 months.

It’s insane how aggressive I can get with the purging, but I think it isn’t necessarily a bad thing. I wonder what on Earth I’ll be compelled to clean up next?

Blogger friends – Do you delete old posts from your blog? Why/why not?  

Filed Under: Everyday Life Tagged With: Declutter, Digital Decluttering, Konmari, Purge

Reading List

February 4, 2016 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 29 Comments

Yesterday someone asked me if I read I lot. I said that, yes, I try to read as much as I can. She replied, “I can tell.”

That, my friends, is my idea of an amazing compliment.

I must admit, though, that lately I haven’t been reading as often as I know I should be. I blame it on my newly developed habit of TV show binge-watching. Truth is, becomes extra challenging for me to keep up with my writing when I slow down on reading, and of course this is never a good thing when you write for a living.

 

He asked his ninang @marrri__ for a book for Christmas. Little bookworm makes mommy bookworm proud! ? #Christmas2015 #littlemrc

A photo posted by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan (@mrspcuyugan) on Dec 17, 2015 at 6:21am PST

 

A few nights ago, I picked up where I left off on the last Secret Book Club BOM I started, Tender at the Bone. This was last September’s book assignment. I actually have a lot of catching up to do, because I only got to read one book from last year’s BOM list. I also skipped a few of the recommended books from the year before. That’s okay, though. I’m happy to be entering into my birth month with a list of books waiting to be read.

In the interest of keeping track of my reading progress, I thought I’d share our reading lists from the past two years here. I love how the different members of our little reading community recommend different kinds of books. It’s always fun finding new authors and series to fall in love with.

 

Done with our September BOM and starting on our assigned book for August. Yes, I am working my way backwards through my book club backlog. Only 3% in and I am already loving this one. Light and witty with bonus recipes in between stories. Fab reco @sinfullysabrina! ? #tenderatthebone #ruthreichl #secretbookclub #bookofthemonth

A photo posted by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan (@mrspcuyugan) on Sep 13, 2015 at 7:18am PDT


 

SBC Reading List

  • Cuckoo’s Calling by Robert Galbraith / JK Rowling 
  • Ilustrado by Miguel Syjuco – I’ve tried and failed many times to read this one. πŸ™
  • Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury 
  • The Lover’s Dictionary by David Levithan 
  • Losing It by Cora Carmack
  • Arabian Nights by Sir Richard Burton
  • Belong To Me by Marisa delos Santos
  • This is What Happy Looks Like by Jennifer E. Smith
  • The Idiot by Fyodor Dostoyevsky
  • Love Letters to the Dead by Ava Dellaira – I loved this one! So depressing. Lol!
  • Ugly Love by Colleen Hoover 
  • Fortunately The Milk by Neil Gaiman 
  • Paper Towns by John Green
  • Still Alice by Lisa Genova – This book made me cry!!!
  • Islands of Chaldea by Diana Wynne Jones
  • Norwegian Wood by Haruki Murakami – I read this years ago, but it’s on my re-read list!
  • Edenbrooke by Julianne Donaldson
  • Lily of the Nile by Stephanie Dray
  • One Summer by David Baldacci
  • Red Queen by Victoria Aveyard
  • We Were Liars by E. Lockhart
  • On Dublin Street by Samantha Young – This was super funny!
  • Tender at the Bone by Ruth Reichl
  • The Residence by Kate Anderson Brower
  • Elegance of a Hedgehog by Muriel Barbery 

I’ll cross titles off of this list as I finish reading, and I’ll update it at the end of the year, too, to include the 2016 list. Read along with me if you’d like to, then let me know if you enjoyed any of the books on this list, okay?

I also found these links (discovered through my book club, too!) bookmarked on my computer. More books to read! 

  • 200 superb books everyone should read at least once
  • Ten superb books from 2015 you should add to your reading list
  • 13 Books To Read Before They Become Movies In 2016
  • 43 Books You Won’t Be Able To Stop Talking About
  • 37 YA Books You Need To Add To Your Reading List
  • 32 Books That Will Actually Change Your Life
  • 14 Books That Will Make You A Wiser Person
  • 12 Books Everyone Should Read
  • 21 Female Authors You Should Be Reading
  • Refinery29’s Reading List
  • The “Mad Men” Reading List
  • 12 Banned Books Every Woman Should Read
  • 50 Of The Most Beautiful Sentences In Literature

As you can see, I am slightly obsessed with book lists.

What’s on your 2016 reading list?

Filed Under: Everyday Life Tagged With: Book List, goodreads, reading challenge, Reading List

Goal setting at the start of a new year

January 1, 2016 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 10 Comments

Hey, hey, hey! Happy New Year, everyone! 

 

At home, in bed, and ready to welcome the new year together! Happy new year, everyone!

A photo posted by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan (@mrspcuyugan) on Dec 31, 2015 at 7:51am PST

 

Yesterday, I told MrC that it would be my last lazy day. As it turns out, yesterday was my last lazy day for 2015, and today was the first for 2016. Lol. Aren’t I just the total opposite of all of those “New year, new me” posts that are all over social media today? I have no regrets, though. I enjoyed the first day of this new year.

One thing that I did do was a quick self-check on my 2015 resolutions. I think I did okay (not perfect, but okay) as far as those are concerned. Yay for that. So, in the spirit of starting the year strong, I thought I’d lay out a few goals for myself for 2016. 

I don’t have all of it figured out just yet, but I do know that this year I would at least like to…

Finish unpacking our things

Our photo frames are still wrapped in newspaper, glasses and small appliances are still in boxes, and random little things are all jumbled up together inside plastic bins. 6 months in, and we aren’t anywhere close to being done with setting up the house. Now that we’re nicely settled in I think that finding a place for everything will be easier, which means that we can finally finish unpacking! Little by little, I know we can get this done over the next few months.

Decorate

Our home is filled with pieces handed down by various family members. It was such a relief to not have to buy much in the beginning, especially since we were unsure of just how much we would be spending on utilities, food, and other day to day things. This year, I hope to add little things that will help make our house more homey, and more reflective of our personalities. I know I want to start by getting curtains that match, and throw pillows for our couch. I also want to put up more family photos!

 

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Cookies and milk we left out for Santa, and one of the few family photos we have on display at home.

 

Attempt to clean regularly

Those who know me well know that I hate cleaning. I hate it. I will tolerate dirt and disorder if it means that I don’t have to clean. I know, it’s so gross, which is why I promise to make more of an effort to clean in 2016. Slowly but surely, one dust bunny at a time.

Purge

When we first moved out of our one bedroom in my mom’s house to a home of our own, it felt like we had so much space. It still feels like we have so much space, but now it also feels like we have too much stuff. It isn’t crowded or anything, but I just feel that there are so many things here that aren’t being used. It’s time to sell, discard and donate. Bonus: It’s easier to clean when there are less things to clean. That’s my motivation.

Spend less

Life changes when you have bills to pay. While we have learned to be smarter with the way we spend our money, MrC and I both agree that we can still save a lot on certain things like eating out (which we still do way too often,) and shopping.

 

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I’m excited to start experimenting on new coaster designs for Crochet by MrsC!

 

Make more

Being able to make things myself makes me happy. There’s just a certain sense of satisfaction that comes with it, that I absolutely love. This year I hope to make more things myself at home – More of the food that we love, including restaurant favorites, baked goodies and sweet treats, crocheted stuff for the home, and the list goes on.

Use my time (and energy) more efficiently

This has always been a problem for me, and each year I try to do better. Here I go again.

Stop being so last-minute with things

I’m such a procrastinator. I know it, and I don’t deny it. To a certain extent, I think I enjoy the pressure that comes with a looming deadline. It has to stop. Any tips on how I can quit being so last-minute?

 

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Last-minute Christmas gifts, wrapped last-minute using recycled brown paper bags and yarn.

 

Blog more consistently, and more meaningfully

For most of 2015, I didn’t know what I wanted to write about, and I didn’t want to write about the things that I actually had to write about. I was tired and brain-drained, and a previous job had sucked the joy out of writing for me. It’s so sad. This year I hope to rekindle my love affair with words and share more stories with you guys. Hopefully you still want to read them!

Keep a journal

This one’s for me. My friends tell me all the time that journaling is good for the soul. It’s something I haven’t done since I was a teenager, and I’m excited to open up a new notebook and start writing. It will be awesome to have a place to keep my random thoughts, secrets, and dreams. Actually, I think I will go do that now!

Have you guys figured out what you want to accomplish in 2016?

Filed Under: Everyday Life Tagged With: 2016, Goals, New Year, Resolutions

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