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New Seasons, New Reasons

April 4, 2016 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 2 Comments

I think I’ve finally figured out why I’ve been uninspired to blog. 

I’ve never been short on desire, time or even post ideas. In fact, I’m the type who can just sit down, start typing, and actually come up with a decent post. Despite all this, I don’t get to write here as often or as consistently as I know I can. And then, literally moments ago, I realized that it’s because my “why” has changed.

Back story.

Three years ago, I wrote a post about why I am inspired to blog. I knew then that I wanted to share my story, whatever that may be. I wanted to be a part of this amazing online community of women who blog. I wanted to have a place where I could write for myself. Ultimately, I blogged because it made me happy.

As life has changed for me over the years, so has my “why.” Not by a lot, but enough to make me re-think things. Let me break it down for you.

In the beginning, I simply wanted to tell stories. I want to go beyond that, from simply telling stories to sharing lessons I’ve learned from them. After all, I need to process the lessons in order to grow, and it’s in sharing these lessons that I can inspire. (OMG, super light bulb moment.)

I hope to be able to impart more wisdom on motherhood and marriage, things that I am pretty sure I’ve been doing right all these years. I am also excited to write about things I’m still learning to do, like turning our house into a home, budgeting, and cleaning and organizing (yuck hahaha!)

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Our marriage is certainly not perfect, but it definitely works. Check out my seven tips for a happy married life here.

 

In the beginning, I only wanted to become a part of the blogging community. Over the years, this group has also been good to me, and I have been able to make wonderful friends. This is something I want to continue doing. More importantly, I want to be able to build actual friendships with the women I meet.

To be honest, I have learned that It isn’t easy translating online friendships to real life. If you go through my archives, you’ll notice that some of the faces you would often see in older photos are no longer present in my more recent posts. I guess that’s really just the way it is. 

I have a handful of blog friends whom I consider as real friends, and they are more than enough. I know that I am lucky to have them. And, truth be told, I’d rather have a few real friends than a lot of fake ones. 

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These are a few of my favorite mom bloggers (and our kids!) You can read about this super fun Mothers Who Brunch Halloween event here.

 

In the beginning, I just wanted to have a place to write. I started out as a newbie blogger the same year I decided to pursue writing as a career. Back then, all I wanted was to be able to see my name in a byline. Five years and several drafts later, I have seen my name in print, not just online but also on paper (Confession: I’d love to see more of it on paper!) 

Soon, my name will also be credited on screen. Achievement unlocked! And OMG what an achievement this is.

Having a blog has really helped push me forward as a writer, and this is something that I hope will never stop. I never thought it would make this much of a difference, but it has. Beyond having an instant portfolio that shows how I write, the actual writing practice that I get from blogging helps a lot, too. This “why” is my constant. 

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Who would have thought that my little and big ideas could actually mean something to other people? Speaking of ideas, in case you find yourself struggling to find things to write about, try doing this.

 

In the beginning, I blogged simply because it made me happy. It still does. And now, I want my blog to emulate my life’s happiness. I want to share this happiness with anyone who reads what I write. I hope to inspire my readers to live happily, too.

I see this space, after all, as my virtual time capsule of happy moments. Of course there will be bad times, and yes, I may write about them sometimes. I will make sure that, in these posts, I will also try to find (and write about) the good side of things. I know I can. I’m naturally optimistic like that. 

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This family knows how to be happy and have fun, and I love writing about these spectacular times.

 

To this list, I am adding a new “why,” and that is to live more. Without living my best life, I know that I will have nothing good to write about. In this sense, blogging can also drive me to live more, do more, feel more, and be more. I continue blog because I want to live better. Makes perfect sense.

That’s why I write. 

Now, curious question,  why do you read?  Which of my posts do you like, and what do you hope to see more of? What will keep you coming back? 

Filed Under: Everyday Life Tagged With: Blogging, blogging with purpose, writing meaningfully

Enveloped Ideas

February 15, 2016 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 18 Comments

Fact: Enveloped Ideas is a song by Filipino band, The Dawn.

It has nothing to do with this blog post.

I will be talking about ideas, though, and how I’m often at a loss for them when it’s time to start writing.

It seems like every time I’m not in front of the computer, I know exactly what I want to write and blog about. Then I sit down, and everything just disappears into a mushy pool of random thoughts. It’s my sad but true reality.

Well, recently I’ve gotten the chance to work with a (really) young director who gave me the brilliant idea of idea-banking. No, it isn’t a new concept, but there’s just something more appealing about having something enthusiastically explained to you versus reading about it online.

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Notebook, check! Pens, check! All that’s missing now are ideas.

 

At our last shoot, he showed me a small notebook that he started carrying around in his back pocket. It contains his random thoughts and ideas – anything and everything that might be interesting to write about, photograph, shoot, or think about. His goal is to write down 10 ideas a day. It’s basically bottled up brainfarts, or, enveloped ideas! Lol. I just had to…

I always have ideas bouncing around in my head, but I’ve never really thought to list them. Why not? I dunno, but now I think I should have started this a long time ago. I feel like it’s a great habit to develop, especially for someone like me who needs to have an active idea bank for work (and for the sake of this blog, too.)

I’m starting today. My colorful pens and little yellow notebook are ready. I hope my brain is ready, too. It’ll be fun creating my own writing prompts, and going over my list of random thoughts on writing days. I hope this means that more interesting and exciting blogging times are coming up, too.

Do you guys keep a list of blog topics and ideas that you want to write about or do you just wing it like I’ve always done? Do you agree that keeping a list of ideas can help us defeat the dreaded blank page?

Filed Under: Everyday Life Tagged With: Blogging, idea bank, Writing, writing prompts

Discovering Myself on Snapchat

February 13, 2016 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 27 Comments

Confession: I have recently become addicted to Snapchat. I don’t know how it happened, but it just did.

During my first few weeks of trying out the app, a million and one things would go through my head as I viewed my own snaps. Thoughts like:

Oh my gosh this is what my voice sounds like to other people?!

My intonation is all wrong! Do I really speak this way???

Should I be fixing my hair before I record a video?

Ooh, if I angle my head and the camera this way, I look thinner. Lol.

I must look silly to people who can see me doing this.

Nakakahiya ako! Ang tanda ko na, ngayon pako natuto nito!

I wonder if it matters that I don’t make an effort to look nice (as in, made up) in these videos?

I really am camera-shy.

That last thought perplexes me. I am camera-shy and I do have stage fright. It’s so bad that even when I’m asked to speak during meetings, I stumble. I get nervous whenever everyone’s attention is turned to me.

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I get SUPER nervous whenever there’s a microphone in my hand, even if all I need to do is read VO spiels from behind the tech booth.

 

BUT, during regular conversations, when attention is drawn to me naturally, I’m totally fine. It’s so weird. I don’t understand why I function this way. I’ve always known that I would do better behind the scenes than in the spotlight, though, because of this. And so behind the scenes I have stayed.

Sayang (it’s a shame,) some people say, because I do have a lot to say. Most of the time the things that come out of my mouth make sense. I guess this is why I enjoy writing and blogging so much. I get to let those thoughts and opinions out without having to open my mouth.

Sayang, some people say, because I’m quite entertaining. Well, my humor is sarcastic and self-deprecating. It isn’t for everyone. So I try to keep my audiences small. As in friends and family only. I feel, though, that as I get used to this Snapchatting thing, I’ll start to seem less uptight there. At the moment, I’m still struggling to get over the actual sound of my voice.

Sayang, some people say, because I register well on-cam even though I’m a bit on the chubby side. To this, all I can say is HAHAHAHAHA. Yep, I may be plus-sized, but that never bothered me before. I’m not the type who will shy away from a camera because of the way I look. I don’t pretend to be thin. I know my angle, and because I’m a girl I sometimes choose to use it. I do love being me, and that’s a fact.

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Even as a bride, I was awkward in front of the camera. This is why we had no prenup shoot, no on-the-day video, and only one, super-trusted photographer during our wedding.

 

It’s strange, but being on Snapchat has sort of helped me learn more about myself. I now have a better idea of how I sound to other people, and what my face looks like while I speak. I never realized that I made that many facial expressions. No wonder I’m able to piss people off so easily. Lol.

I also know that my days can be really dull. I wake up, have coffee, cook, drive. I get on the computer and write. I read a little, cook some more, then drive again. Most of my time is spent at home. When I actually go out, it’s to go grocery shopping or to the laundromat. Guys, do I need a life? Lol.

At the same time, I’m learning that I really like this life. It’s a far cry from what my days were like during my 20’s, especially when I still worked in events management. Everything was so exciting and fast-paced then. Now, things are slow, calm, and quiet. I like it, but some days it makes me feel old. And I know I’m not actually old.

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Back when I was cooler.. Lol.

 

There are days when I sit and think about how I can make my snaps look more interesting. Of course I know that the answer is to actually go out and do something. Whenever I’m out, though, I don’t open Snapchat. Why not? Because I really fell like I look silly recording myself as I speak into my (huge) phone.

At the start of 2016, a friend shared that vlogging will soon kick blogging’s butt. I take this to mean that those of us who are more comfortable at writing rather than speaking our thoughts are in trouble. I guess that Snapchat, in this case, also works for me as a sort of trial phase, should I ever transition to posting videos.

At this moment, however, I can say that I am so not ready for it. But add me on Snapchat anyway. 😀

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MrsPCuyugan on Snapchat

 

Have any of you guys shifted from blogging to vlogging or have you started to incorporate videos into your posts? How has the transition been for you? Is anyone else out there totally not camera-ready like me? 

Filed Under: Everyday Life Tagged With: Blogging, Snapchat, Vlogging

Laundry cycles and life cycles

October 21, 2015 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 3 Comments

In case you missed it, this blog no longer goes by the name “Mrs C’s Sugarcoated Life.” As of some time last week (OMG momnesia, I can’t even remember when I made the change,) we are now known as “At Home with MrsC.”

Why the change? Well, in case you were wondering (and even if you weren’t haha,) it’s simply because it was time for a change. It’s time to start on a new cycle.

 

Not exactly my favorite thing in the world, but a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do. #change #onwardsandupwards #thinkhappythoughts #brushlettering #handlettering

A photo posted by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan (@mrspcuyugan) on Oct 12, 2015 at 6:25pm PDT

 

It may be that I’ve been spending so much time at the laundromat that I’m now thinking in cycles, but I really believe that life works that way. Just as our dirty clothes go through wash cycles to become fresh, clean and nice-smelling again, our lives go through periods of change between good, weird, bad, and then better, until we fall into a place that works.

After a while, no matter how smooth-sailing things may be, something inevitable comes up and things get complicated or confusing, or even messy again. When that happens, it’s time to go for a quick clean (aka change,) and the cycle starts up again. Now please tell me that this made sense to you guys, and that it isn’t just my new-found desperate housewives status in life getting the better of me.

So, what changes are happening exactly? As far as the blog is concerned, nothing much, except that I am determined to set aside time to write more often. The last few months have been quiet here, and I feel a little sad about that. Oh that, and the new name. It’s kind of symbolic actually, in the sense that my focus now is really on making this house into a home. I want to be more than just a housewife. I want to be a homemaker.

As for real life, I obviously have to dedicate more time to my homemaking, wifely and mommy duties, basically because no one else can do that but me, and because it’s in line with what I want for myself and my family. This means that I’m putting my WAHM-self on the back burner, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Yes, I am slightly panicking over the fact that we now have bills to pay for real, but I know things will work out.

 

Today’s #letteritoctober prompt fits right in with where I am right now in life. #brushlettering #handlettering

A photo posted by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan (@mrspcuyugan) on Oct 11, 2015 at 12:49am PDT

 

Ultimately, in order for me to continue to make this place a happy home (and by this place I mean our actual home, and this blog, which is my virtual home,) I need to be happier too. Happiness means being less stressed out, having more energy to do the things that I love, and having more free time, as in physical free time and a mind that is free from worry and distractions, to spend with my loved ones.

If you ask me, less stress > more money. 

Between MrC and I, I know that we will find a way to make everything work for us, not just in terms of finances, but also in terms of keeping our little family happy, comfortable, and satisfied. We do make a great tag team partner, something that has been tried, tested and proven again and again over many years. Plus, as my dear friend Tina always says, God will provide. I have faith.

So now I need to ask, how do you guys feel about my new blog name? 

Filed Under: Around The House Tagged With: Blogging

Hey Blogger Friends, See You At Blogapalooza!

November 11, 2013 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan Leave a Comment

After a 3-week unplanned blog hiatus, I’m officially back. Wheeee!!!

I’m starting things off by sharing how excited I am to be joining this year’s Blogapalooza happening on Saturday, November 16, 11am-9pm at Function Room 1, SMX Aura, BGC. Just so you know, Blogapalooza is a big Business to Blogger (B2B) networking event where businesses can interact with bloggers who, in turn, can help promote their companies, brands, products and services.

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In the latest event announcement, there are already 400 blogs on the list of attendees, and I can’t wait to meet everyone. I know a lot of my mom blogger friends will be there, so that’s something to look forward to. If you are a blogger, and would like to join Blogapalooza, you can still do so by signing up here: http://Blogapalooza.WhenInManila.com. There are only a few slots left, so make sure that you sign up now.

See you there!

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Filed Under: Everything Else Tagged With: Blogapalooza, Blogging, Events

My Relationship with Longganisa (Or Finding My Writing Triggers)

August 26, 2013 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 11 Comments

After typing the title for this post, I realized that it kinda sounds like the title of an x-rated film. Lol.

At last Saturday’s Write On Workshop, one of the topics was time management and finding time to write for your blog. Martine said that one of the ways we can keep our writing momentum going is to write while an idea or inspiration is hot. During the discussion, I got to thinking about my writing triggers, or what usually gets my creative juices flowing. I came to the surprising realization that some of my best ideas for posts (or scripts, articles and other stuff I need to write) have come to me while I was cooking longganisa. I kid you not. A couple of weeks ago, I actually composed an entire pitch for a blog post series that I want to do on my BlackBerry while cooking longganisa at dawn. Talk about striking while it’s literally hot!

Another successful Dainty Mom Writing Workshop!
Another successful Dainty Mom Writing Workshop!

I also get really good ideas while in the bathroom taking a shower, brushing my teeth, or doing other stuff that I’m sure you guys do in the bathroom too. Ever since I was in school, bathroom breaks were great thinking opportunities for me. In fact, when I was still working and someone would ask me for my inputs on things, I would think a little, go to the bathroom to pee, and come back with so many different ideas. Too much info, but totally true. These bathroom ideas though aren’t as good as the ones that I get while cooking, and really, the best ones happen when I’ve got longganisa in the pan.

It sounds weird, but it really works (for me, at least). And yes, I cook longganisa that often haha. My family loves sausage in general, and when we feel like having Pinoy food for breakfast, it usually involves a silog of some sort. Most of the time it’s longsilog. Not very good for the waistline, I know, but great for work! Here’s proof: I thought up this post while reheating some leftover longganisa for brunch this morning. True story!

How about you? What are your writing triggers? 🙂

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P.S. I actually tried to make my own longganisa once, using a recipe I found online. It came out really yummy! The link to the original recipe can be found in this blog post. 🙂

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Filed Under: Everyday Life Tagged With: Blogging, Writing

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