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Learning how to be a housewife

September 2, 2015 by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan 31 Comments

Fact: I had absolutely no idea how truly tiring being a housewife could be, until I actually became one.

Over the last few years, after I decided that I was done working full time, I’ve been sort of a housewife. I say sort of because we were living with my parents then, meaning I wasn’t the head housewife of the household. My mom was.

As junior housewife, I had far less tasks and chores to complete. I had nothing to do with the household budget. I could afford not to cook or shop for groceries when I didn’t feel like it, since I had my mom to count on when laziness (or busy-ness) would strike.

Home is where the weirdos are. #athomewithmrsc #OhanaMeansFamily

A photo posted by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan (@mrspcuyugan) on Jul 22, 2015 at 3:19am PDT

Obviously, since we moved to a home of our own, I’ve started wearing a bigger crown on my pretty little head (yes, I just called myself pretty,) as I now assume the role of lead housewife. Actually, make that, the only housewife in our household.

I now understand why, when we were being difficult growing up, my mom would sometimes break down and angrily tell us that she is our mother and not our maid.

I get it because I now also notice every bit of dust on the wall, every water stain on the flatware, and every splatter of oil on the stove.

I know now how frustrating it feels to want to do so many things in a day, but not be able to because you simply lack time or energy, or both. As a former office mate of mine used to say, hindi kaya ng katawang-lupa ko! (Translation: My earthly body cannot handle it.)

Housewifing ain’t easy! The trick, I have come to realize, is to be smart about things, to find a strategy that works, and to stick with it. You also have to be adaptable, though, able to think on your feet and come up with plans B to G as fast as possible, whenever necessary.

I’m certainly no expert, but I’ve been able to find a few things that have worked for me over my first few weeks of being the queen of this (messy but happy) house. And here they are.

Mrs C’s practical tips for the newbie housewife

1. When in doubt, throw it out.

I believe that this is a very, very, very important rule. This goes for:

  • Questionable food in the fridge and in the pantry
  • Storage containers that have seen better days (meaning those that are stained or already smell funky)
  • Old toys that no longer work
  • Old bills and receipts, and other random pieces of paper you may have lying around
  • Housewarming gifts that you do not absolutely love (you can re-gift or re-purpose these)
  • Ratty underwear (I’m serious, and I am speaking from experience)

In other words, de-clutter. It can be so tempting to hold on to everything, especially if your current space is bigger than your old one. Believe me when I say that the last thing you want is to start building meaningless piles of random things. I think my husband would be truly proud of me for saying that.

As you can see, someone knows how to make a housewife happy! Look @polcuyugs! Something exciting came in the mail today. Ang bago ng house natin neto heeheehee. Which scent do you guys like best? It's lavender for me! #pickyourpinesol #savoryourmetime

A photo posted by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan (@mrspcuyugan) on Aug 4, 2015 at 1:24am PDT

2. Choose to clean a little at a time or all at once

Some people prefer to go on all-out cleaning sprees, while some find it is better to clean a little at a time. The point is to make it a point to clean. It doesn’t matter how you do it, just do it.

I am lucky that I have a husband who likes cleaning. I recently got him hooked on the wonderful smell of Pine-Sol Lavender, and this has encouraged him even more to keep our house spic and span. Since he works, he only gets to go on cleaning sprees on weekends. This means that I am responsible for our space for the rest of the week.

I try to help out by throwing wrappers and scratch paper I see lying around, doing dishes, and sweeping the floors once in a while. At times, it really doesn’t feel like much. But I tried not sweeping for a week (yes, gross, I know), and now I know for sure that doing it every other day does make a difference, and that my small efforts are worth something.

3. Plan your meals

Fortunately for me (and for the two boys I need to feed) this is a task that I actually enjoy. I find that meal planning is so relaxing. I love knowing exactly what I need when I go to the store. I like the predictability of having a set plan for dinner. At the same time, I’m not afraid to mix things up and experiment every once in a while.

I love being in the kitchen, from conceptualizing our dinners, to preparing and serving them. Cleanup, well, I leave that to MrC. Which leads me to…

4. Work out a system with the people in your household

If you are crazy enough to brave it without house help, make sure that you enlist the participation of the people at home so that you don’t go nuts trying to do everything yourself. Like I said, MrC is in charge of keeping things clean. He is also iron man. I take care of laundry, food, shopping and driver duties.

Little MrC is slowly being encouraged to help out. He sets the table, brings used plates and utensils to the kitchen sink, puts away his laundry, and fixes his room (sometimes.)

So happy to be back home after a long and busy day. On the upside, got to catch up on a #crochet project and flip through my favorite @yummyph this morning at Caffรจ Bene while waiting for my meeting. #savoryourmetime

A photo posted by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan (@mrspcuyugan) on Sep 2, 2015 at 12:48am PDT

5. Make the most out of your time

I usually organize my tasks and chores weekly. I set blocks of time for me to accomplish each, and I move things around as needed.

There are weeks when I am unable to complete all of my laundry loads. There are days when, instead of the four hours I’ve set, I end up working on an article for almost an entire day. It happens. It’s okay. You just have to learn to adjust whenever necessary.

Also, find time for yourself. Yes, it makes me feel a little guilty when I choose to sit and enjoy a glass of homemade iced tea and a TV show for 30 minutes when I know that I have a basket of laundry waiting to be washed. But I need the me-time, otherwise I will burn out.

You need the me-time to. Yes, you. So go get some.

6. Sleep

I. Cannot. Stress. This. Enough. Sleep is gold. It is so tempting to forego sleep, especially when you are a multitasking momma, but really, we all need to get enough rest if we want to stay healthy and alert.

I am so used to getting 8-9 hours of sleep a day, so now that I’ve had to cut down to 6-7 hours, I find myself on mombie mode more often. That’s where coffee comes in. I make up for it on weekends, though. On Sundays, in particular, I allow myself to sleep in as much as I can. So please don’t bother me on Sunday mornings.

And finally…

So the problem with our floors pala is it's so obvious when they're dirty. Good morning from my fat feed with pedicure-needing toes, and my pink doggie jammies. Happy Sunday, peeps! ?#athomewithmrsc #feetstagram #mib_cleanandbright #notthatclean

A photo posted by MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan (@mrspcuyugan) on Jul 18, 2015 at 7:29pm PDT

7. Make like Elsa and let it go

Of course we dream of having it all – The immaculately clean, perfectly decorated house. The almost-gourmet home cooked meals. The shiny happy family relaxing at home. The perfect hair and manicured nails. Hey, a girl can dream.

But seriously, if you wanna stay happy, you have to let go of some of these things. I’ve learned to accept the fact that our house will always be a little bit dusty. On some days, it’s a lot dusty. But we are happy here. We are building memories together in this house. So I don’t mind the dust.

I’ve also given up on getting a manicure and having my hair done. I’m saving that for a special occasion. It doesn’t matter anyway, as long as I know that my husband still thinks I’m pretty. Which I know he does. And on days when he doesn’t, I know my son still thinks I look lovely. Yes, I just called myself pretty again.

Whenever you feel like something isn’t going the way you want it to, step back, let go, and enjoy the things that are going right. You’ll feel more content, and a lot happier. Trust me.

So there you go. That’s where I’ve been these past two months, trying to figure all of this out. Now that I kind of have my groove back, I think I’m ready to start writing again. Yay! More stories soon!

What are your practical tips for surviving the housewife life?

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Comments

  1. Sam says

    September 17, 2015 at 10:21 am

    Being a housewife is very difficult. You learn what true love is at the service of your family. And you learn how to sacrifice. But it grows you more as a person

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  2. Roxi Santiago says

    September 9, 2015 at 6:25 pm

    You’re doing a great job, Patty! When my Mom is not around, I’m the assigned ‘housewife’. I loved it, doing errands and grocery. Tiring as they may be. But when she’s hear, I can afford to sleep longer in the morning because I know my eldest will be fed and someone will entertain the littlest one. Pero ang hirap ng dalawa ang housewife, aminin!

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 12, 2015 at 5:10 pm

      Hahaha oh yes, ang hirap talaga! It’s tiring but rewarding being the queen of your castle. ๐Ÿ˜€

      Reply
  3. Melisa Sanchez says

    September 9, 2015 at 11:06 am

    YES! I agree sleep is golden! haha!! I can relate all the list. Being a household wife is tough. Adjustment in all things. Lalo pa pag di mo nakasanayan. Time management more, pause and rest to avoid stress ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 9, 2015 at 11:30 am

      Hay time management has always been such an effort for me because I was never used to sticking to a schedule growing up. But slowly but surely, I’m learning to make the most of my time each day.

      Reply
  4. Michi says

    September 9, 2015 at 7:59 am

    I can relate with I’m a mother and not a maid. I always tell that to my son when he doesn’t do what he needs to do. We don’t have yaya or helper since we got married so like you, all chores and tasks are divided. Everybody should help in the house, hindi porket stay at home mom ako, ako lang lahat. I need a break and me time too. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 9, 2015 at 11:24 am

      I have yet to use that line on my son lol. Thankfully he is still at that age where he obeys easily naman. Good luck to me, though, when he hits the pre-teen years. Dapat yata I really get him used to the idea of chores early on.

      Reply
  5. SJ Valdez says

    September 9, 2015 at 12:28 am

    All I can say is, I can relate! Sobra! No further explanation needed. Lol!

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 9, 2015 at 11:22 am

      Haha! Apir! Nice to have kadamay in these things.

      Reply
  6. jem alvarado says

    September 7, 2015 at 2:39 pm

    From the tips, I want SLEEP! ๐Ÿ™‚ . I agree with “Home is where the weirdos are”. Hehehe sometimes I think that way.

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 8, 2015 at 11:07 pm

      Sleep is golden! ๐Ÿ˜€ Haha it’s fun when you can be silly with family.

      Reply
  7. theresa says

    September 6, 2015 at 2:40 pm

    Very useful and tips. Since I’m getting married soon and will be having a family of my own, I will treasure what you mentioned here. Thanks !

    Reply
    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 8, 2015 at 11:07 pm

      Congratulations! I wish you an exciting and happy married life!

      Reply
  8. Lai Gamboa says

    September 6, 2015 at 2:31 pm

    Congratulations for your new home. Sleep, I feel you there! I cant remember when was the last time I had an straight 8 hours of sleep. Just like you, I clean a little at a time, I cannot squeeze in my sched a general house cleaning, and thats too exhausting for me, haha. I only do general house cleaning if there are occasions.

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 8, 2015 at 11:08 pm

      Thanks so much! Haha I can’t help but laugh about our shared cleaning habits. I also only make an extra effort to clean when I have people coming over.

      Reply
  9. Louise says

    September 4, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    Just wanna say… I get annoyed when some people (even housewives) consider themselves “just” housewives. Just because the women isn’t working like others doesn’t mean that she’s useless or that she’s not tired! I admire housewives because I’ve seen my aunts struggle being one. It’s not as easy as others think! Just because they’re not earning money for the family doesn’t mean they’re “just” housewives.

    Anyway! Hehe. These tips would be very helpful for newbie moms. I’ll show this to my cousins younger than me so it would easy for them to cope with this new responsibility and environment.

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 8, 2015 at 11:09 pm

      I totally agree! Being a housewife IS a fulltime job. Bow.

      Reply
  10. May De Jesus-Palacpac says

    September 4, 2015 at 6:06 pm

    hahahaha, I so love this blog! you already had me at #1, when in doubt, throw it out. throwing out’s my thing, hahahaha. I remember my husband driving back and seeing a family walking past the car with one of our couches, hahahaha!

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 8, 2015 at 11:10 pm

      YOU ARE SO HARDCORE! Hahaha! Meanwhile, I have to convince myself 10 times to throw out the things I no longer use.

      Reply
  11. Franc Ramon says

    September 4, 2015 at 3:46 pm

    Balancing a household is a really tough task. You’re like the facilitator and executor of everyone in the household. I like the when in doubt throw it out. I’ll keep that in mind the next time I clean my room.

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 8, 2015 at 11:11 pm

      It most definitely is tough. Harder than I thought it would be!

      Reply
  12. Janice says

    September 4, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    I was waiting for the day when you’ll be saying all these things. Hahaha! Congrats for finally being queen of your household. You’ll learn more things as time passes. The key is really to do what works best for you and your family. I used to be such a perfectionist and control freak. But when we decided to stop hiring household help 3 years ago, I really learned to prioritize and let go of the stuff that don’t really matter. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 8, 2015 at 11:12 pm

      Oh my gosh, I’m an adult na! Hahaha! Haynako the headache that having house help can cause is not worth the clean house. Minsan nga, fake clean lang e! I’m happier without helpers.

      Reply
  13. Shivani says

    September 4, 2015 at 10:28 am

    Awh love the list especially the part of ‘Make Like Elsa and Let It Go’. Fab share!

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 8, 2015 at 11:12 pm

      Thank you!

      Reply
  14. jojo vito says

    September 4, 2015 at 12:35 am

    hahah I was intrigued by your title “how to be a housewife”…I can only imagine the adjustment period especially for the newly weds

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 8, 2015 at 11:13 pm

      Yes, it must be a lot tougher for newlyweds, coz of course they are only just beginning to learn how to live with each other.

      Reply
  15. ceemee says

    September 3, 2015 at 2:15 pm

    Great list! The one holding on to the clutter and broken things at home is so me! Huhu!

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    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 3, 2015 at 4:47 pm

      Thank you, Ceemee! Aynako, letting go of stuff is still a tough process for me. I’m really a hoarder. But slowly but surely, I’m getting better at it hehe!

      Reply
  16. Rinka SyCip says

    September 2, 2015 at 9:55 pm

    Awww I love this!

    Reply
    • MrsC | Patricia Cuyugan says

      September 3, 2015 at 11:39 am

      Aww thank you, Momma!

      Reply

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